I internet dated for about 8 years or so, and oddly enough, almost all of the dates I had were normal women who were generally nice folks. Not that we were all ‘soulmates’ (I’ve learned to despise that nomenclature), but that is no reason to ruin what could be just an enjoyable evening out. Fortunately, most of the women I’ve met have understood that. Perhaps it has something to do w/ my low-key nature, but that is for others to say.
I have always simply tried to be nice and never harbored high expectations for anyone. That used to be fine in this context, but things seem to have changed; now that internet dating is no longer for ‘losers’ (I never liked that assumption, either), the expectations have risen sharply–on both sides, it seems. I’m still very low-key and unassuming, but it seems that many (most?) guys are looking for drop-dead gorgeous women who are just looking for a man to validate them–sexually or otherwise. And the women seem to be looking for a tall, handsome fellow who has an unlimited supply of the green stuff. As you can tell from many of the posts to this site, the expectations are well out of whack w/ reality–but that doesn’t seem to deter anyone.
Let’s face it, folks: Janet Jackson and Brad Pitt already have plans for this weekend, and even if they didn’t, they probably won’t be trolling the web for dates. And you are still sitting at home, alone, waiting for them. Tsk, tsk.
I finally had to give it up. No matter how hard I try, I’ll never be 6′ tall, have the body of Adonis and the wealth of Bill Gates. I can’t meet today’s high expectations, and am not inclined to lie about it.
But to all those women I’ve met over the past 8 years, thanks for the memories. Sorry that things didn’t work out for one reason or another, but we were at least able to stave off loneliness, if only for a while.
To the new crop of daters: good luck. If the trends in internet dating are any indication, you’ll need it.